Online Safety Guide

Staying safe online comes down to three habits: verify people before you trust them, share less than you think you need to, and keep a clear exit. The chapters below turn those habits into specifics — written for the situations people exploring alternative relationships actually face, where exposure can cost as much as physical risk.

The chapters

1. 1How to meet someone from an app safelyA first-meeting checklist for anyone meeting someone from an app — plus notes for couples and for people who need discretion.5 min read
2. 2Spotting catfish, fake profiles and romance scamsThe patterns fake profiles and romance scammers follow — and the quick checks that expose them.5 min read
3. 3Sextortion: how to prevent it, and what to do if it happensHow intimate-image blackmail works, how to lower your risk, and the steps to take if someone threatens you.5 min read
4. 4Protecting your identity on dating and kink appsPractical steps to keep a dating or kink profile from being traced back to your real name, workplace or home.5 min read
5. 5Sharing intimate photos safelyHow to lower the risk if you choose to share intimate images, and what the law and StopNCII can do if they’re misused.5 min read
6. 6Red flags in kink, D/s and non-monogamyHow to tell a genuine dynamic from someone using the language of kink or ENM to push past your consent.5 min read
7. 7What to do if something goes wrongStep-by-step help if you’ve been assaulted, threatened, scammed or had images shared — and where to find support.5 min read

Why we wrote this

At White Rabbit, trust, safety and consent are the product — verification, blocking, reporting and panic-hide are free for every member, always. But safety shouldn’t depend on which app you chose, so this guide is free for anyone to read and share. How White Rabbit protects members →

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